My experiences with Contemporary Love

I am currently facing a paradox; I come from a country where Loving is “natural”, you can find people with whom you don´t need to play games in order to start a successful relationship. But this don´t seem to be the case in a large part of the rest of the world.

Nowadays a man is not meant to be honest and transparent, a man is meant to play it cool, to be hard to get, to be quite a challenge for the girl. If a man demonstrates his feelings, it means he is easy, and he might be urged, in a rush to get someone, maybe because he is not worthy and no one wants him so he is now desperate… seriously?

So, where does this leads us?
A man should not open doors, should not pull a chair, should not buy flowers, should not dance, furthermore a man is not meant to call a girl, not even text her… because it makes him look needy, and it will lead him to be Friendzoned for the rest of his existence.

Then, on the other side we have girls who decide to break with this; they open their feelings and trust the first guy who comes with a nice smile; they open their arms, their heart, their legs, and pum! The guy disappears after getting what he wants. A jerk if I may say.

Next thing, girl will never trust a guy who seems to have an honest smile that promises a lot. She will never give herself at the first guy who comes with flowers, or who is kind to her, ever again. She will wait for a guy who seems to worth and for him to prove it, he should be a guy who is not easy to get… and the circle starts turning.

So girls don´t want boys who care because they seem easy and not really challenging, or because they might be jerks looking only for one night stands; hence, to avoid looking like this, boys stop caring and being nice, at the end its even easier; you just have to be as awesome as you always are, wait for the girls to line up, and then let them compete until one finally do or offer enough to be selected.

That sucks!

I laugh at the thought of, what would it be of our great literature classics if this would have been always the case? Forget Romeo & Juliette! They would have never been able to close the deal; Romeo would have had to play “hard-to-get” at that masquerade, hence Juliette would had be in a crush, but just for a week since next Thursday she would be sold in marriage to Count Paris. The end.

Love have been “managed” in very different ways during human history, I will not go through each one, what I will do instead is to propose a new one, because the current one just stinks:

Why don´t we start being transparent and honest instead? No more stupid capitalism-based sports, no more cheap tv drama versions of our real feelings, no more masks, no more games (and I don´t mean the filthy ones, I am a fan of those). Let´s now play Love with these new rules:

- I show you who I am, not more, not less, just clean and transparent ME.
- You show me who you are; not more, not less, just clean and transparent YOU.
- We find out TOGETHER if we have a match, but we do it based on three rules: Respect, Trust, and Communication.

If we do have a match, we will have a nice, last longing relationship with high possibilities of becoming something epic.

If after trying we decide that we do not have a match, then we will still have each other! No one would end up damaged or fooled because both sides will be playing clean, with transparency, with Respect, Trust, and Communication, so the worst thing that can happen is that you will find an excellent friend who knows you in ways that very few people knows you.

A Win-Win experience! Who´s in?!

I am not recruiting by the way; since humans are an infection covering now a huge part of my planet, I just want to help bringing back some feelings to the parasite… to make it more… more human.